We all know as human beings that physical attraction plays some part in connecting with others. Whether it’s a smile or someone’s eyes, we can’t help but be affected. And no one should judge us for doing so. Yes. There are plenty of people on Tinder who just want to get laid. Yes. Some may even want an actual relationship. As social creatures who are typically conditioned to find a mate, we can’t help but listen to this primal urge.
But what if there was another way? I’m not talking about filling out countless questions while setting up a profile on eHarmony or trusting your friends to match you up with “the one.” I’m talking about connecting with someone on a deeper, more meaningful level.
Mind reading? Not quite yet, although I loved Mel Gibson in What Women Want. We may still be years off from that being a reality. Spying on potential mates to learn their daily habits? Nope. That’s considered illegal and super creepy.
Then how could we possibly connect with others any deeper?
What was the last idea you had? I don’t necessarily mean earth-shattering innovation at its finest. I simply mean what was the last thing you identified as a problem that needed a solution? We may not realize it, but we inherently project ourselves through the ideas we put out into the world.
I’m sure the co-founders of Tinder care about more than getting laid and Taylor Swift has more to offer than shaking things off. I am referring to the fact that ideas reflect our own unique way of solving problems.
When I share an idea with someone, not only am I proposing a potential solution to a problem, I am also using vulnerability to share a part of me.
Granted, a wise man once said, “Ideas are shit. Execution is what matters.” I tend to agree with this sentiment. If I share an idea with someone and they are able to bring it to life quicker than I can, more power to them.
However, how many people feel like they “don’t have any good ideas,” or aren’t creative enough to share a winning idea? I’m not sure of the exact number, but I can tell you it’s WAY too high.
It’s easy to feel stifled at work when your boss doesn’t let you speak your mind or your friends constantly put you down because “you’re an easy target.” You know what’s not easy? Sharing ideas. You know what’s even harder? Making them happen.
That’s right. Ideas may be shit without execution, but without the initial idea, there is nothing to “crush” or execute. It all starts with that one idea. The one that you’ve been sitting on for a while. And why are you not making it happen? Not enough money. Not enough time. No one to help you.
As someone who considers himself fairly empathetic, I understand that these are all barriers. We hear from the life coaches and business gurus of the world that these are all excuses. That we are getting in the way of ourselves. You know what? They’re right. So, what do we do next?
Work harder? Hustle longer? Sacrifice more? There is something to be said about work ethic, but it is possible to bust your ass on the wrong idea with the wrong people. Instead of throwing around judgement and criticism, why not offer an actual solution that normal, everyday people can work with?
That’s exactly what I am proposing. Life is hard, and pursuing ideas doesn’t need to be any harder. Connecting with others is also hard (except for all of the extreme extroverts out there). In my mind, why not do both at the same time? My solution is to connect people with ideas.
As some of you may have realized, this is two-fold statement. One concept is to connect people who are constantly generating and pursuing ideas with others just like them. The other is to connect these people using their very own ideas.
That’s right. Instead of using shameless shower selfies (say that ten times fast) or millions of redundant questions, allow two human beings to connect with their intellect, passion, and personality.
When these individuals “collide,” it’s only the beginning of something amazing. Don’t get me wrong, relationships are amazing. Hell, even sex is amazing. Marriage can be amazing. What I mean is that these two people could go on to solve actual problems in the world. They could change the lives of countless people. Or, they could simply meet, discuss and idea over a cup of coffee, and go their separate ways.
At the end of the day, there is something to be said about serendipitous collisions. Not the bullshit buzzwords that “innovators” throw around. I’m talking about the actual meaning of the phrase:
Occurring or discovered by chance in a happy or beneficial way.
Two people meeting for no other reason then to impact each other’s lives in a happy or beneficial way. Why rely on chance for this meeting to happen? Imagine if everyone was able to meet in public and pursue ideas together, regardless of if they wanted to sleep with each other or are looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend who is taller/shorter and won’t embarrass them in front of their parents.
THIS is a world that I would personally thrive in. Day-to-day connection with people over ideas, instead of random small talk and useless gossip. If you feel the same way, I want to talk to you. Seriously.
You can leave a comment below, reach me on Twitter at @williamfrazr, or shoot me a message. Until then, I will continue to listen to my friends complain about not meeting the right person because “everyone’s a creeper” or “he looks different than his profile picture.”
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